Dave Singleton, an award-winning writer and columnist for Match.com wrote an interesting article today for Happens Magazine about how where you live could have an impact on your love life.
By examining a recent Pew Research Study identifying marriage and divorce rates by state, average duration of marriages and number of Americans married multiple times (I can’t wait to see the Utah numbers), he wondered: given all this marriage data, what are the implications for singles? Does the state of your dating life correlate to the state where you live?
It seems the data does provide some clues:
1. The five states where single women will struggle the most to find a date are: Idaho, Iowa, Kansas, Utah and Nebraska. These are states where people tend to grow up, stay around and settle down…without the influx of new singles into the mix, dating opportunities for women living in these states are pretty limited. If you live in the Midwest, the only thing getting plowed out there regularly is corn.
2. On the other hand it’s raining men (snap) in New York, New Mexico, Rhode Island, Alaska and the District of Columbia. That’s a pretty diverse geographic and demographics selection from yuppie cosmo types in NYC who ruined our economy, to more “rugged” types up north who smell like fish and eat blubber. Would you really want to date either of them?
3. Everything’s bigger in Texas, including divorce rates — home to more adults that have been married multiple times (i.e., three marriages or more) than any other state. Arkansas and Oklahoma aren’t much better. So if you’re looking for “the one” in any of these states, your “one” should be one hell of a divorce attorney.
4. You’ll be blue if you live in conservative red states in the Midwest and Northwest (Utah, Wyoming, North and South Dakota, Nebraska and Kansas) because they are less welcoming for singles on the move. By the age of 24, half of the women in Utah and Idaho are already married. And half of those are married to the same dude. If you have to move to any of these states, you are screwed. And not in a good way.
5. You’re better off moving to Washington D.C. because it scores highest among all states for its share of educated singles that marry later in life and experience fewer divorces than national average. Not counting politicians.
6. There’s always Carolina, but then you’d have to be a Panthers fan. But for single women, it offers a higher-than-average population of single men, a relatively affordable cost of living and a laid-back lifestyle. You might even get to live in Morehead City or Horneytown. (I’m not making this up.)
7. But if your kinfolk say: “Move away from there. California is the place you ought to be.” you should load up the truck and move to Beverly. Hills that is. Swimming pools. Movie stars. And a larger population of available singles and a lower percentage of divorces than most places in the U.S. I wouldn’t have thought that, but apparently it’s true. It does cost a fortune to live here though, so start diggin’.
8. Are you feeling lucky? Then you could try Nevada. But the odds are against you if you’re looking for marriage or a long-term relationship because it has the highest share of divorces and higher-than-average share of single people. You’re probably better off going there for a dirty weekend and finding that Girlfriend Experience, actual love you don’t have to pay for, elsewhere.
You can read the full article and find out more about how the other states stack up. But as you can probably imagine, there are many differences across the states, some with more opportunities for dating than others. If you’re single and have been for quite a while, it might be time to take a look around your immediate surroundings and for a change of scenery. The Bay Area is quite nice this time of year.