I think we’re all taking a moment today to pause and reflect a bit on this 10th anniversary of the September 11, 2001 attacks on our nation. How can we not with all the media attention it’s been getting. But it’s a good thing. It’s important that we remember the victims and their families, our fallen heroes on that day and every day since, and our troops. And how we all came together as a nation, united, truly united, on common ground and with a common purpose. We were there for each other. We had each others’ backs. It was nice while it lasted.
One thing people keep talking about is how much has changed in our lives over the past ten years since that tragic day. People were shocked and profoundly affected by the events of September 11 and have shifted their priorities in life as a result, focusing less on their careers and more on living more enriched, fulfilling lives, seeking out companionship and developing meaningful relationships. The basic human need to feel love, (and to be loved), suddenly became more important than the need for a fat stock portfolio, Rolex or new pair of Manolos.
And so they started looking for love, but not in traditional ways. They used technology. Research has shown that men and women alike are going to singles bars and night clubs, hiring matchmakers, and attending singles events less frequently and spending more time dating online since 9/11. They started pointing and clicking their way to “love” online. Mainly because it was there and accessible, it was new and it was easy. And now just look at how popular online dating has become, and how social networking has become such an integrated, important part of our daily lives? How much time do you spend each day on Facebook and Twitter?
That’s how my book “FREE LOVE – True Stories of Love and Lust on the Internet” came to be. It’s about how we all have the same basic need for love and companionship and it celebrates those who are brave enough to shun convention, embrace technology, risk rejection, and use alternative, sometimes frowned upon methods of meeting people to help them find the like-minded man, woman, couple or DOM of their dreams. Or at the very least, someone warm to curl up with for the night.
It’s about remembering that ultimately, however they happen into your life, the people you have around you are what matters most, and to try not to take them for granted. Today might be a good day to tell someone you love them. Because you never know when they might be taken away from you.