Denise Ngo from YourTango’s LOVE BUZZ makes the case for women to quit traditional dating and take up online dating instead. Further, she disputes the claim by some that online dating is only for freaks, geeks and old/desperate/ugly people with no relationship prospects.
Rather, the average twentysomething woman should consider online dating as a legitimate, time saving (and respectable) way of finding dates. Why take on and dedicate time to additional activities and responsibilities if you can simply log on, fill out a profile, and start browsing matches in a matter of minutes?
She decided to poll some of her own twentysomething acquaintances who have tried—and even found love on—online dating sites and found four unexpected reasons to ditch traditional dating and get online.
#1. Online dating is cheaper than the bar scene.
Marissa, 23, from New York, found her boyfriend on Match.com after going on a series of failed dates with men she met at work and in the city’s social scene.
#2. Online dating helps narrow the field.
Shannon, 22, from Nebraska, met her husband on eHarmony after realizing that the men she met offline did not meet her needs. “It is so hard to meet somebody the traditional way today because our society is no longer traditional,” she said. “We use social networking for everything else, so why not dating? The guys will be matched with your personality on 29 different levels. Your chances of finding that at the gym or in line at Starbucks are pretty slim.”
#3. Online dating is efficient.
Haemin, 29, an eHarmony user from New Jersey, pointed out that people in her age group expect and appreciate efficiency. “Maybe I really love the opera and want a date for La Traviata,” she said. “I’d probably have an easier time searching for someone on Match.com for a fellow opera lover than at the corner pub.”
#4. Online dating is a time-saver.
If the feedback from twentysomething online daters is any indication, dating online is less about insecurity about attractiveness, and more about saving time. “[People] work long or odd hours and don’t have time to waste roaming from bar to bar on Thursday, Friday, or Saturday nights,” Haemin said, and even if you have time to spare, what if the man of your dreams doesn’t? He might just be on the other side of town, volunteering or working away, and you might never find him unless you seek him out online.
She continues to point out that “on some level, young woman are uncomfortable with the notion of seeking out love instead of letting it find them. We might live in a society of social networking, cell phones, Facebook and Twitter, but we are also inundated with films where unsuspecting women find their soul mate in a random, comedic way (and as a bonus, he always seems to look like Ryan Reynolds or Hugh Jackman.)”
And that while you’re waiting for the movie moment to happen, it’s probably a good use of your time and relationship energy to create a profile while still dating around the traditional way (if you must).