I was sent a rather annoying article recently from a friend that was posted on SFWeekly.com titled Girl Game about how a “world famous” pickup artist is teaching single women how to attract “suitable” guys in San Francisco. Which is apparently difficult to do without “dating down” or “settling for less” or “lowering your standards” despite Forbes magazine naming San Francisco the second-best city in which to be single, behind Atlanta.
Sure, some people are better equipped than others in the social skills department and could use a few pointers or a confidence boost to help work up the courage to initiate an introduction without having to resort to cheesy pick-up lines. But this article is all about cheesy pickup lines, the “art of the neg” and “eye-fucking” across a crowded bar. Tactics originally developed for men by another “professional pickup artist” dude in the book The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists published a few years ago (in imitation leather) to pick up women.
You can read the article here, http://www.sfweekly.com/2010-03-03/news/girl-game/1
All of which, in my humble opinion, helps demonstrate why online dating has become so popular over the past few years – so that you can filter out all this kind of crap and avoid the games people play in the singles/bar scene if you want to, and engage people in a way that’s perhaps a bit more meaningful and not based solely on initial physical attraction.
I guess it all comes down to what you’re ultimately looking for on any given night. Sometimes a trip to the meat market to scratch a particular itch might just be the thing. But perhaps if you’re looking for that special elusive someone to complete you, and not just someone to knock boots with for the night, you might want to re-think your strategy if you’re buying into this kind of game playing stuff, and instead just try being real, friendly, genuine and approachable and leave the play book at home.
Don’t get me started about The Rules.